Ask Dr. Elia: How can I best help my husband overcome online porn? Part 1 – Mormon Times: “
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Ask Dr. Elia: How can I best help my husband overcome online porn? Part 1
Mormon Times Ive read several of your articles on internet addiction, and it sounds like youve also worked with spouses of addicts. Im sure Im not alone in asking … |
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I cannot count the times I’ve heard this, but when I first meet with someone struggling with this particular addiction, their typical reasoning is, “Well if my wife and I had more sex together, I wouldn’t be tempted!” Now let me set the record straight, once and for all! This is the BIGGEST excuse in the world, and there’s NO truth to it! For every addict who claims lack of adequate sex with his wife is the reason behind his addiction, I can point out many more who may not have the best intimate life with their spouse but do NOT seek out pornography. For those who wish to blame their spouse for their acting out, their denial of taking personal responsibility quickly comes to an end by answering this question: “Did you ever look at pornography before you ever met your wife?” The answer is always a resounding, “Yes, I did!” So their issue has nothing to do with their spouse or lack of enough sex. The problem rests entirely and only with the addict.
